One of the things I'm most asked to coach executives in the work environment on is this - assertiveness.
And that's no accident.
Assertiveness is one of the most powerful (and most overlooked) distinctions when it comes to being a charismatic communicator.
In the boardroom, it's what distinguishes the respected executive whose ideas get heard from the guy whose ideas put people to sleep.
In the bedroom, assertiveness is what distinguishes a rock star lover from someone who ends up in the "doesn't really count" category. (You know exactly what I'm talking about ladies.)
Assertiveness: Genuine Power (instead of Force)
How great would it feel to finally let go of all that manipulative nonsense you used to have to resort to in order to get others on board with your goals, dreams and overall vision?
Would you believe me if I told you that transforming communication from the forceful and childish passive-aggressive type to the powerful and charismatic assertive type could be accomplished by following a simple 4 step method?
As always, I say don't take my word for it.
Listen to as I walk a young lady through the 4 steps of assertive communication in a live coaching scenario: (Press play)
RECAP: The Assertive Communication Model:
Being a powerful and Charismatic Communicator is all about being straight in your communication and taking what you get.
"I understand ..." - Communicate that you understand the other person's point of view.
"I feel ... " - Build powerful rapport by communicating your feelings in a manner which requires courage and vulnerability.
"I want ..." - Make powerful requests AND communicate how accommodating your request will benefit THEM.
"Is that okay?" - Communicate your desire to create a win-win outcome for all parties involved.
(I've used this communication model to save marriages!)
Set your intention. Make powerful requests. Accept the worst possible outcome. Let your intended audience know how your request will benefit them.
